When going through a major struggle like infertility there's one thing I've never thought I would have to remind myself as well as others; even though you may not have a baby or be able to adopt, you still matter. Just because you may not have a child at that point in time, or maybe even ever, it does not make you less of a human being.
Sadly though this is something I am constantly sating not only to myself, but others as well. Not being able to have a baby through natural conception or infertility treatments does not mean that you are broken, nor does it mean that you have no value. It just means that God has made us all differently, and he has a greater testimony being developed through our struggles than what we can presently see.
One quote that I came across recently was a great reminder of this:
"...with a baby or without, you are valuable, you are whole, and you matter..."
- An Infertility Story (AmateurNester.com)
These are such important words to be told and frequently reminded as an infertile couple. That we are not defined by whether or not we have babies or kids or even how quickly we can have them. That we are not incomplete if we are not able to have kids. Sadly though, these are normal thoughts that almost every one has when they first begun to experience infertility. The cause of these thoughts are many and come from a plethora of outlets ranging from secular and non secular areas. It comes from commercials, television shows, social media, books, radio, film, and so on. It's hard to not let yourself think such negative thoughts about being infertile when you are constantly surrounded by so many things telling you just that.
Even with all of these negative thoughts and ideas lurking around every corner, it made me realize something major; my worth and identity are not defined by my ability to have kids. This also applies to people who do not feel led to even have kids. Our identity is in Christ alone.
If God wants us to have children from any method of conception or through adoption, He will surely make it happen. But as I've learned and mentioned before, sometimes that is not His plan for certain people. Sometimes His plan for us does not involve children, or His giftings to us don't include being led to have children, and that's okay. All it means is that there is a different path for our lives and constant testimony that He has in store for us.
You still matter, you are still important to God and his work in this world.
Sadly though this is something I am constantly sating not only to myself, but others as well. Not being able to have a baby through natural conception or infertility treatments does not mean that you are broken, nor does it mean that you have no value. It just means that God has made us all differently, and he has a greater testimony being developed through our struggles than what we can presently see.
One quote that I came across recently was a great reminder of this:
"...with a baby or without, you are valuable, you are whole, and you matter..."
- An Infertility Story (AmateurNester.com)
These are such important words to be told and frequently reminded as an infertile couple. That we are not defined by whether or not we have babies or kids or even how quickly we can have them. That we are not incomplete if we are not able to have kids. Sadly though, these are normal thoughts that almost every one has when they first begun to experience infertility. The cause of these thoughts are many and come from a plethora of outlets ranging from secular and non secular areas. It comes from commercials, television shows, social media, books, radio, film, and so on. It's hard to not let yourself think such negative thoughts about being infertile when you are constantly surrounded by so many things telling you just that.
Even with all of these negative thoughts and ideas lurking around every corner, it made me realize something major; my worth and identity are not defined by my ability to have kids. This also applies to people who do not feel led to even have kids. Our identity is in Christ alone.
If God wants us to have children from any method of conception or through adoption, He will surely make it happen. But as I've learned and mentioned before, sometimes that is not His plan for certain people. Sometimes His plan for us does not involve children, or His giftings to us don't include being led to have children, and that's okay. All it means is that there is a different path for our lives and constant testimony that He has in store for us.
You still matter, you are still important to God and his work in this world.
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