That's right, you read the title correctly, I have somehow managed to train myself to not go on Facebook more than once every couple of weeks. Trust me it's not easy to do, but it was a much needed thing for me to do. I started to find that every time I went onto Facebook I would log off feeling more sad and depressed than happy. It took me a while to notice that while I was giving a thumbs up to major events in people's lives, I was actually starting to feel some negative thoughts towards others because of the images I was seeing.
I was beginning to have thoughts that were beginning to have an incredibly negative effect on how I related to people. I started to have thoughts like: 'That's not fair, why do they get to have a baby, but we don't?' or 'Seriously, they weren't even trying to have kids as long as us.' I started to find myself having problems even being around the people I followed on Facebook in real life. I decided that something needed to change, because all I was doing was placing myself in a bad place mentally.
I came to the conclusion that I needed to do a Facebook detox. That meant taking all the bookmarks off my computer for the site, deinstalling it in my phone, and also making sure the bookmark is off of the internet browser on my phone. I figured it would be slightly easier for me this way. Out of sight, out of mind.
It wasn't easy at first, I had to constantly stop myself from unknowingly typing the site's name into my browser. After a couple weeks though I noticed myself thinking less about all the babies that every one was having, and started to let go of the negative thoughts I was having. After a month I completely lost all interest in going on Facebook, and I no longer constantly thought about all the kids that other people were having that we couldn't have. It also became much easier being around random pregnant women or families with babies out in public. I didn't want to instantly burst into tears or go into a depressive state just being in the same vicinity of them.
Now I'm not saying that this method solved everything, but it was definitely a step in the right direction. Through that small step I did come to the conclusion that there are a lot more items I need to remove from my life or regulate a lot more.
I was beginning to have thoughts that were beginning to have an incredibly negative effect on how I related to people. I started to have thoughts like: 'That's not fair, why do they get to have a baby, but we don't?' or 'Seriously, they weren't even trying to have kids as long as us.' I started to find myself having problems even being around the people I followed on Facebook in real life. I decided that something needed to change, because all I was doing was placing myself in a bad place mentally.
I came to the conclusion that I needed to do a Facebook detox. That meant taking all the bookmarks off my computer for the site, deinstalling it in my phone, and also making sure the bookmark is off of the internet browser on my phone. I figured it would be slightly easier for me this way. Out of sight, out of mind.
It wasn't easy at first, I had to constantly stop myself from unknowingly typing the site's name into my browser. After a couple weeks though I noticed myself thinking less about all the babies that every one was having, and started to let go of the negative thoughts I was having. After a month I completely lost all interest in going on Facebook, and I no longer constantly thought about all the kids that other people were having that we couldn't have. It also became much easier being around random pregnant women or families with babies out in public. I didn't want to instantly burst into tears or go into a depressive state just being in the same vicinity of them.
Now I'm not saying that this method solved everything, but it was definitely a step in the right direction. Through that small step I did come to the conclusion that there are a lot more items I need to remove from my life or regulate a lot more.
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